Sunday, April 27, 2008

How to Know if You're Really in Love

It is a very common question, "How can I tell I'm in love?", but it is not an easy question to answer. What feels like love to one person may be nothing more than attraction to another. Some people fall in and out of love quickly and often while others are never really in love as much as they are in lust. This can get confusing when you are a teen because romantic love is a relatively new concept for you and you don't know what to expect. You are overwhelmed with all sorts of new feelings and social pressures. They are confusing. What is love? What makes you want a romantic relationship with one person and not another? How does your heart choose a partner? Why does love end? These questions can't be easily answered.

One of the most confusing quasi-love feelings is lust. Lust is a very powerful, very intense feeling of physical attraction toward another person.

Lust is mainly sexual in nature - the attraction is superficial based on instant chemistry rather than genuine caring. Usually we lust after people we do not know well, people we still feel comfortable fantasizing about. It is very common for people to confuse lust for love. But why? What is it about lust and love that make them so easy to mix up? If lust is all about sex, how can a relationship without sex be about lust? Teens struggle with this because they see lust in the Biblical sense, but lust isn't that sinister. Lust is about physical attraction and acting ONLY on physical attraction. Love is about much more than that. Yet many teens (and to be fair, many adults) confuse an intense attraction for some sort if divine love. For teens, since feelings of attraction are still new and since pop-culture sells sex and love as one package, it is very easy to get the two mixed up.

Lust is clearly not love. Love is based on more than just physical attraction. Sure, attraction is a factor, but love goes deeper than that. Love is based on caring, friendship, commitment and trust. When you are in love it is as if you have your best most trusted friend at your side AND you feel physically attracted to them. It is the best of both worlds! Love is a shared feeling between two people who have a vested interest in one anothers happiness. Love is not about jealousy. It is not about conflict. It is not about testing. Love is a positive feeling. If it is tainted by mistrust, jealousy, insecurity or spitefulness it is not really love but merely a pale copy. Love is the total surrender of your heart to another person with the security of knowing they will treat it better than you will. Love should feel good. It should not feel bad. Love should make you want to be a better person, it should not lead you to do something self destructive. Love is not demanding of your spirit but lifts it and makes it glow. Love is a good thing. Anything less is lust, deep friendship or attraction. So the sappiness aside, the question remains, how can you tell you are in love?

There is no easy way to find the truth behind your feelings or the feelings of another person but there are some tell-tale signs that love is blooming (or growing deeper). If you agree with 7 of the following 9 statements you are probably in love.

  1. You know, because you have been told by your significant other, that your deep feelings are returned in kind.
  2. The object of your affections makes you feel special and good about yourself.
  3. If/when you feel jealous it is always fleeting; you trust your partner not to betray you or hurt your relationship.
  4. Nothing makes you feel as serene as when you and your partner are together.
  5. When you fight with your partner you usually make up within a few hours and you always agree that nothing is more important than you both being able to express your true feelings (even if they sometimes cause conflict).
  6. Your partner never asks you to choose between him/her and your loyalties to your family and friends - if you do choose him/her over them you always have a good reason and it is always YOUR decision, and your decision alone.
  7. Neither you or your partner feel the need to test the other's loyalties or feelings.
  8. You are more yourself when with your partner than you are with anybody else.
  9. If sex is part of your relationship it is by mutual desire and agreement without the slightest hint of commitment testing or persuasion.

Yes it's me and I'm in love again

Well for the second time i have fallen in love…

There’s nothing that’s as exciting (and nerve-wracking) as falling for someone… all of the hopeful anticipation…

I knew her at through internet. Her name is Sandra Jane.
She's not perfect but she's trying to be as perfect as she can..
i love her coz she makes my life complete...

Saturday, April 19, 2008

Getting Over a Break-Up

If you've just had a break-up and are feeling down, you're not alone. Just about everyone experiences a break-up at sometime, and many then have to deal with heartbreak — a wave of grief, anger, confusion, low self-esteem, and maybe even jealousy all at once. Millions of poems and songs have been written about having a broken heart and wars have even been fought because of heartbreak.

What Exactly Is Heartbreak?

Lots of things can cause heartbreak. Some people might have had a romantic relationship that ended before they were ready. Others might have strong feelings for someone who doesn't feel the same way. Or maybe a person feels sad or angry when a close friend ends or abandons the friendship. Although the causes may be different, the feeling of loss is the same — whether it's the loss of something real or the loss of something you only hoped for. People describe heartbreak as a feeling of heaviness, emptiness, and sadness.

How Can I Deal With How I Feel?

Most people will tell you you'll get over it or you'll meet someone else, but when it's happening to you, it can feel like no one else in the world has ever felt the same way. If you're experiencing these feelings, there are things you can do to lessen the pain. Here are some tips that might help:

  • Share your feelings. Some people find that sharing their feelings with someone they trust — someone who recognizes what they're going through — helps them feel better. That could mean talking over all the things you feel, even having a good cry on the shoulder of a comforting friend or family member. Others find they heal better if they hang out and do the things they normally enjoy, like seeing a movie or going to a concert, to take their minds off the hurt. If you feel like someone can't relate to what you're going through or is dismissive of your feelings, find someone more sympathetic to talk to. (OK, we know that sharing feelings can be tough for guys, but you don't necessarily have to tell the football team or your wrestling coach what you're going through. Talk with a friend or family member, a teacher, or counselor. It might make you more comfortable if you find a female family member or friend, like an older sister or a neighbor, to talk to.)
  • Remember what's good about you. This one is really important. Sometimes people with broken hearts start to blame themselves for what's happened. They may be really down on themselves, exaggerating their faults as though they did something to deserve the unhappiness they're experiencing. If you find this happening to you, nip it in the bud! Remind yourself of your good qualities, and if you can't think of them because your broken heart is clouding your view, get your friends to remind you.
  • Take good care of yourself. A broken heart can be very stressful so don't let the rest of your body get broken too. Get lots of sleep, eat healthy foods, and exercise regularly to minimize stress and depression and give your self-esteem a boost.
  • Don't be afraid to cry. Going through a break-up can be really tough, and getting some of those raw emotions out can be a big help. We know this is another tough one for guys, but there's no shame in crying now and then. No one has to see you do it — you don't have to start blubbering in class or at soccer practice or anything. Just a find a place where you can be alone, like crying into your pillow at night or in the shower when you're getting ready for the day.
  • Do the things you normally enjoy. Whether it's seeing a movie or going to a concert, do something fun to take your mind off the negative feelings for a while.
  • Keep yourself busy. Sometimes this is difficult when you're coping with sadness and grief, but it really helps. This is a great time to redecorate your room or try a new hobby. That doesn't mean you shouldn't think about what happened — working things through in our minds is all part of the healing process — it just means you should focus on other things too.
  • Give yourself time. It takes time for sadness to go away. Almost everyone thinks they won't feel normal again, but the human spirit is amazing — and the heartbreak almost always heals after a while. But how long will that take? That depends on what caused your heartbreak, how you deal with loss, and how quickly you tend to bounce back from things. Getting over a break-up can take a couple of days to many weeks — and sometimes even months.

Some people feel that nothing will make them happy again and resort to alcohol or drugs. Others feel angry and want to hurt themselves or someone else. People who drink, do drugs, or cut themselves to escape from the reality of a loss may think they are numbing their pain, but the feeling is only temporary. They're not really dealing with the pain, only masking it, which makes all their feelings build up inside and prolongs the sadness.

Sometimes the sadness is so deep — or lasts so long — that a person may need some extra support. For someone who isn't starting to feel better after a few weeks or who continues to feel depressed, talking to a counselor or therapist can be very helpful.

So be patient with yourself, and let the healing begin.

Pope Benedict visits U.S

Details about Pope Benedict XVI’s much-anticipated apostolic journey to the United States next year have begun to emerge. Anticipated stops for the Pope’s first-ever US visit include, New York, Washington, Boston and possibly Baltimore.

The tentatively scheduled April 15 to 20 trip is centered around a papal speech before the United Nations General Assembly in New York. Secretary General Ban Ki-moon personally invited the pontiff to address the UN.

However, plans for the voyage remain unconfirmed. George Weigel, in comments to CNA, said that "[i]f the Pope comes to the UN next spring, he'll obviously do one or two other American cities.” “Nevertheless, there is no decision I'm aware of on which it would be.”

Sources familiar with the plans for the papal visit say that the pontiff will visit New York, where he will celebrate Mass at Central Park, give an address in St. Patrick's Cathedral, and pause for a moment of reflection at Ground Zero.

The trip, however, will reportedly begin in Washington, where the Pope is expected to meet with the president, visit Catholic University of America and say Mass on the National Mall.

The last stop is Boston, where he is expected to address the sexual abuse scandal. His visit there would end with a Mass on Boston Common.


Protestors gather on Fifth Avenue during the arrival of Pope Benedict XVI at St. Patrick's Cathedral in New York April 19, 2008.

What is your comment about this protest?

Sunday, April 13, 2008

IDX webdesigns

I am so thankful and blessed kc I've worked and spend my working life @ Here are some of my reasons:
  1. My bossing Mr. and Mrs. Curtis Cooper, They were my employers, mentors and my second Parents. Ever Supportive in my career.
  2. My workplace @ el reo and Nova tierra, mini-office pero i love it.kc i felt nasa bahay hustle and no pressured at all
  3. Cooper Family, for giving me a chance to be part of there family.. and i really appreciate it so much
  4. My co-workers namely(Arranged in work time):
    1. Michael Puente (Designer)- learns rapidly, easily and efficiently. . I salute you bro
    2. Nessan balondo (Programmer)- is friendly and outgoing..
    3. Constantino Siocon (Programmer)- is fluent in producing and elaborating on ideas.
    4. Jovelyn Baron (Designer)-puts depth into drawing, showing planning and good proportion.
    5. Jay Dalleda (Programmer)-can show intense concentration on a task.
    6. Florante Salinas (Designer)-has a keen sense of humour, seeing humour in situations others don't.
    7. Vincent Jamero (Programmer)-likes to study some subjects more than others.
    8. Jan Michael Guardaquivil (Designer)-can show unusual degrees of originality, concentration and persistent hard work on projects that capture their interest and imagination. Known as Mr. Talkative.
    9. Larejun Pineda (Programmer)-has a liking for structure, order and consistency. Known as Mr. Silent but deep.
    10. Richelle Joy San Pedro (Programmer)-displays a great curiosity about objects, situations or events. known as Sexy girl in town.
    11. JanPol Rama(Programmer)-doesn't mind being different
    12. Ana Marie Tandal (SEO)-always trying to adapt or improve things. Known as SEO expert
    13. Jorge Cabaluna (Programmer)-seeks assistance of others beyond his or age peers in extending knowledge in areas of interest
    14. John Paul Larridal (Programmer)-asks many questions of a provocative nature
  5. Other Employees
    1. Cristina Samarista (V.A)- shows superior judgement in evaluating things
    2. Zeus Tampus (Designer)-displays a willingness to accept complexity
    3. Alex Mamba (Office Assistant)- is looked to by others when something must be decided
    4. Raul Maano (Programmer)-is able to extend learning from these key areas to various situations somewhat unrelated in orientation
    5. Others not mentioned. Specially the OJTs (namely: Joy Thompson, Jonathan David, Archie and others) You're lucky you found your best training field
Because of those people mentioned above naging mabuti at magaling ako na tao ngayon...
KEEP UP the GOOD work guys!!!!

Monday, April 7, 2008

Philippine Crisis..

What about economic crisis in the Philippines?

The first thing to do when you are about to do a research is to narrow what you want to look for. Researching is looking for an answer.

First ask a question. Your statement is so vague, economic crisis. Are you asking what is the root cause?

Are you looking for a solution to the economic crisis? or are you asking, Why is the economy of the Philippines seems to be in crisis all the time? Then and only then that you will be able to do a research.

Maybe first ask yourself what is economy? What constitutes an economy? If I buy something made in the Philippines am I helping the economy of the Philippines? If all my classmates are buying things we need made in the Philippines am we helping the economy of the Philippines?

As a young person ask yourself, "If I help promote buy in the Philippines am I helping solve the economic crisis?

My parting words and you can quote me on this, the Philippine economic crisis is partly due to the preferences of ordinary citizens to buy foreign made goods.

I also hope you will do research on the possibility of RP being a US state!

Crisis in the Philippines
Election scandal and impeachment send Arroyo government reeling, and Filipinos to the streets

Global Research, July 27, 2005

The Philippines is set to explode, as President Gloria Macapagal Arroyo faces impeachment after being caught in the act of rigging her 2004 re-election, sparking outrage and threats of popular revolt.

Military intelligence agents opposed to Arroyo wiretapped conversations between Arroyo and a man believed to be elections commissioner Virgilio Garcillano. In one of the damning May 2004 conversations, Arroyo is heard asking Garcillano (addressed by Arroyo as "Garci") if she will win the election by more than 1 million votes:

"So, will I lead by more than 1 million?"

According to opponents of Arroyo, the infamous "Hello, Garci" phone call is definitive proof that Arroyo cheated in the election, which she won by about 1.1 million votes over Fernando Poe, Jr. (who died in December 2004 after allegedly suffering a stroke), amidst other allegations of vote manipulation.

Transcripts and digital files of the Arroyo wiretaps, and complete analysis of the scandal are available from the Philippine Center for Investigative Journalism and the alternative investigative site Bulatlat.

Arroyo has admitted that it was her voice on the tape, an absolute confirmation of her guilt, according to her opponents and critics. Arroyo, however, has only apologized for a "lapse in judgment". Her attorneys and supporters have argued that the wiretaps were illegally obtained (therefore inadmissible as evidence). But the damage is done: just about every Filipino citizen has heard the tapes. The derision is so extensive, that the "Hello, Garci" call has been made into a popular cell phone ring tone.

The impeachment case against Arroyo will include charges of betrayal of public trust, culpable violation of the constitution, graft, corruption, and bribery. Vice President Noli de Castro may be the target of a separate impeachment. Arroyo will also be tried, as the commander of the Armed Forces of the Philippines, for the murder of political activists and other civilians, and death squad activities over the past three years. Ten cabinet members, who recently resigned their posts, have called on Arroyo to resign. The former cabinet members have expressed their willingness to testify against Arroyo.

Outraged lawmakers and citizens are promising a "people power" revolt, if pro-Arroyo majority forces obstruct or derail the impeachment. The regimes of Ferdinand Marcos (1986) and Joseph Estrada (2001) were ousted by popular revolts.

A lesson for Americans

The new Philippine crisis presents another sobering example of how people in nations outside of the Anglo-American axis grasp the concepts of democracy and liberty better than those inside the "elite bubble" ever will. Filipinos are taking to the streets, raising their collective voices, and fighting for ethical government. They are being active and creative with their protest. They know what is at stake. The yoke of imperialism, and the stink of corruption, are all too familiar to Filipinos, and they are taking action.

By comparison, the Bush administration has committed crimes of unprecedented scope and scale, on a virtual daily basis for nearly five years. Three consecutive stolen elections, 9/11, the "war on terrorism", the Patriot Act, the invasions and occupations of Afghanistan and Iraq, Plame/Rove, the Downing Street Papers, Abu Ghraib/Guantanamo and a long list of other blatant atrocities, have sparked little resistance (or even interest) among the most Americans. Tragic evidence of the triumph of social controls in the "developed" world.

Pacific linchpin

The emergency in the Philippines demands careful monitoring, and the importance of what unfolds cannot be overstated.

The US cannot afford to lose the Philippines, its key geostrategic pivot in the Pacific and the South China Sea, and its most important military-intelligence base in the region. The Arroyo government has been the Bush administration’s top "war on terrorism" ally in Asia. (See the six-part series "The United States in the Philippines: post-9/11 Imperatives").

The US wiped out a quarter of the Filipino population in its 1899-1903 conquest of the Philippines. In the modern era, through ongoing covert operations and a series of brutal puppet regimes, the US has made the Philippines its top regional neo-colony, whose geostrategic importance increases as the US marches closer to a cold war with China.

It goes without saying that the Bush administration will follow tradition, and pull out all the stops to maintain US control over its most precious Pacific foothold, including doing what is necessary to prevent a popular revolt in the Philippines that could threaten US interests.